Monthly Archives: September 2010

Mommy Wars

September 27, 2010 in Just Life, Staying Home Didn't Kill the Feminist, Thoughts from a SAHM

Wasn’t the point of the feminist movement that women have choices? Choices about the course of her own life unfettered by father, husband, and society? At the time the choice seemed simple and direct–out of the kitchen and into fulfilling careers. Right? The Mommy Wars are a well-known phenomenon–identified and written about by any major women’s/parenting magazine. However, perhaps both corners–the working mom (WM) and the stay at home mom (SAHM)–are judging each other less [...]

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Boys are just gross

September 22, 2010 in Just Life, Raising these kids, Thoughts from a SAHM

They are, seriously. I know that I used to know that, once upon a time. The vast majority of my close friends growing up–right up until I had kids, actually–were of the male species…er, sex. Exhibit A: We tend to forget about olfactory (smell) memory, but who can deny the emotions roused from that certain smell? Good smells–like cookies, or bad smells–like the teenage boy. Even writing this, my nose remembers the sour stankness that [...]

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Life with Two Kids

September 17, 2010 in Just Life, Life Lessons, The Small People Know Me as "Mommy", Thoughts from a SAHM

Remember how I said becoming a parent makes you part of a different club? Within the past few months a large chunk of my other club-members are in late-stage pregnancy, have just delivered, or balancing a newborn and another child. Crazy stuff, don’t drink the water ‘round here. In honor of my fellow mom-friends who are just venturing into the hazy world of becoming parents to multiple children, I offer the following sympathy and advice. [...]

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How about y’all stop

September 16, 2010 in Just Life, Raising these kids

…being dicks? Gasp, did she just call her precious children dicks? Yes. Yes, I did. Why? Because one of them (Elliot) has reached the peak of separation anxiety. Obviously being out of his sight means I have been abducted by rabid squirrels. Zach doesn’t appreciate the younger one getting undivided attention. And by “doesn’t appreciate” I mean he throws a fit about not being included. At least I have two legs, making the ratio of [...]

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Picky Eating is Driving Me Insane

September 15, 2010 in Just Life, The Small People Know Me as "Mommy"

The picky eating phase is my least favorite of all developmental milestones. I’m quickly going insane. I spend dinner every night rolling an Albert Einstein quote over and over in my head. Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. And the definition for consistency: steadfast adherence to the same principles, course, form, etc. Well, hell. By that logic, I can hold my consistency responsible for my insanity. Elliot versus [...]

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The Better Mother- reposted

September 14, 2010 in Just Life

A repost from February 18, 2010. Because we all need to be reminded that the best way to teach your children about the important things in life is for them to experience living for themselves. How best to teach a child that not-perfect is wonderfully okay then being a not-perfect, but still wonderfully okay, parent? For all of the wonderfully imperfect parents–and people–that I know–perfection only exists in the dictionary, and that is where it [...]

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NO, don’t throw that away

September 9, 2010 in Adult ADHD Isn't a Bad Thing, Just Life, My Disorganized Mind, Reduce, Reuse, Recycle by Upcycling

Last week I had the brilliant idea to actually write all of our plans on the calendar and then to enter all of the calendar dates onto my Droid. And though you not be impressed with a seemingly innocuous task, to me it is being organized, and organization is the bane of Scattermom. I have a plethora of organizational plans, but very few workable systems. The very few with an actual system? Well, after a [...]

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Failure to Thrive

September 1, 2010 in Just Life, Raising these kids

When I was still pregnant with Zach, a friend was dealing with some heavy-duty health issues with his young son–vomiting and weight loss (later diagnosed as food allergies). I remember when they got the failure to thrive diagnosis…how my friend said it was like being told they were failures as parents; failures at nurturing. My heart ached for them even then, and I could not have known how fully I would own that statement in [...]

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